"Nobody marries by mistake. People only divorce by mistake."
-Walter E. Brakelmanns, MD
"Problem: A meaning system that interferes with one's preferred direction. Located in the culture. Some-thing unpleasant. Any-thing that affects one in undesirable ways."
-Jeffrey L. Zimmerman & Victoria C. Dickerson "If Problems Talked".
Whether gay, lesbian or straight, intelligence is no guarantee for serenity, fulfillment, or success. When there is a mismatch between what you KNOW and what you DO, the result can be anger, depression, anxiety, and self-loathing.
Smart people come to therapy because they have not succeeded in "fixing" their relationship by trying to think it through. Would you like to connect your brain and your heart? Therapy can help you to build the relationship you both want to be in.
Do you wonder if the problems affecting your relationship…are the same as those affecting straight couples?
Do you wonder how "being gay" affects how you respond to problems…perhaps even influencing the nature of the problems?
Are you curious why you do the things you do, and why sometimes those things hurt you and hurt others? So am I. People come into therapy with a desire to change, or to understand; sometimes it is to alleviate emotional pain, and sometimes it is simply the need to be listened to. I help clients develop curiosity about the stories that make up their lives. I assist in their search for meaning, helping guide them to make choices that better serve their goals and desires. My work with clients is a joint creative process, and the project is your life!
I am an active therapist, asking questions that can lead to you understanding what keeps you from getting where you want to be. Therapy can put you in a position to decide what is of value to you and what you would like to let go of.
I welcome smart individuals and couples who are ready to get to work. I offer psychotherapy that identifies and explores options and choices around relationship/dating/sexual issues with spouses, intimate partners, friends, family, jobs, yourself, your moods, and the world. The work I do is a specific discipline unlike any other, and I am committed to the results you want.
You have the right to receive a “Good Faith Estimate” explaining how much your medical and mental health care will cost. Under the law, health care providers need to give patients who don’t have insurance or who are not using insurance an estimate of the expected charges for medical services, including psychotherapy services. You have the right to receive a Good Faith Estimate for the total expected cost of any non-emergency healthcare services, including psychotherapy services.
You can ask your health care provider, and any other provider you choose, for a Good Faith Estimate before you schedule a service. If you receive a bill that is at least $400 more than your Good Faith Estimate, you can dispute the bill. Make sure to save a copy or picture of your Good Faith Estimate. For questions or more information about your right to a Good Faith Estimate, visit www.cms.gov/nosurprises.
Online therapy has been shown to be just as effective and helpful as in-person therapy, and there are many benefits to using it. I am pleased to offer online therapy through video or phone sessions for individuals, and video sessions for couples. Yes, it works with couples! My online therapy services are available to you if you reside within the state of California. For residents of Los Angeles for whom my West Hollywood office is accessible, it is best if you can come into the office, but there are exceptions. For additional informaiton please visit my Online Therapy page.
Online therapy may be for you, and I am happy to offer both phone and video sessions for individuals, and video sessions for couples. Please contact me by phone or email to discuss any questions and to set up a free 50-minute consultation.
Tony Davis, LMFT
I offer a complimentary consultation, so, please feel free to ask me any questions you may have about the issues you are looking to discuss. Just give me a call or email me to set up an appointment.